Something depressing me... family problems

[gottaluvkh1992]

Originally Posted by blinkboy211

Hmm calling names is abusive? The police cant do much then just detain him for a night or so. Unless he is actually hitting your mom there is no point to call the cops.

I mean my mom and dad argue alot and they call each other names oh god i should call the cops and ruin my parents 25 years of marriage. Violent is the only person i see actually thinking of what could happen if you call the cops.

did you read it she said it is abusive to her and her mum, you should call the police over here in england you are encouraged to if that happens.

[rockin riku]

yeah but over in N.I the police won't do anything

i don't know what you should do cause other people can't really help you i know no want to belive this but it's true this is for your family to sort out i'm sorry if this is making you more depressed but i'm a very depressing person which is telling you the truth

you could run away i guess cause then they both might forget there diffrences and try there best to find you if they love you

[gottaluvkh1992]

or you and your mum go and stay with family so the dad will find out what hes missing.

[rockin riku]

yeah that might work
maybe there's something wrong with work

i think everyones mum and dad has argued and called each other names at least once

[TheLastKnight]

Originally Posted by rockin riku

yeah that might work
maybe there's something wrong with work

i think everyones mum and dad has argued and called each other names at least once

but not abusive, my dad only hit my mom a few times, but they're divorced

[KershaFangs]

I completely understand the situation, however the cases for you and me may be very different.

My mother was verbally and physically abused by my father, for years, and he even hit both my sisters when they were little and growing up and myself when I was an infant. She didn't even love him after he changed during the first year of marriage, apparently he was actually good-looking and caring but he just suddenly changed completely. The only reason my mom even stayed with my father was because of her children and the fact that she was raised without a father and didn't want that on her own children, but since we didn't like him as well she found no reason to stay with him and left. The police had to be called several times in the course of all this, however they did little to nothing of help. Even if they did arrest him though, that is not going to fix all the emotional and psychologically scars he left behind.

Really, if your mother loves your father, then you should try to talk to a responsible adult and set up something that will help them both get their marriage on track. If she doesn't love him anymore and is only staying with him for your own sake, then the decision is up to you, if you really want to be with both your parents. Although it'll hurt, you have to find a way to talk about this with your mother and get what she wants in mind. If she wants to be with him and so do you, then try to confront your father together and explain this. If he still lashes out and strikes you both, then it'll still your mom and your own choice if you wish to stay with someone who is obviously violent.

It was extremely rough at first for my mom to support her three girls without a paycheck, but she stayed in her mother's house and we all lived there comfortable. My father, although extremely late with the checks every weeks and missed several weeks out of the months, paid child support so that helped. My mom approved for welfare so we had that too. Eventually everything evened out and I may not have gotten many fancy things or trinkets while growing up, but I was happy that at least we were safe.

How do you and your mother feel about your father?

Although my story ended up with divorce with messy ties, perhaps yours will be different. Hope you can at least find happiness at the end of the ordeal like I did, in your own version.