suicidal friends

[Rika17]

your friend is in need of help, he needs to be taken to a phycologish right away

[gottaluvkh1992]

I have had many times of being really depressed i am going through it now, but i have said i have wanted to but have never tried, sometimes i do fell like i want to but i dont. Try to smile and cheer him up that helped me. Make jokes and try to be there for him. DON'T SAY THINGS CAN GET BETTER OR IT WILL FEEL BETTER AFTER A FEW WEEKS that is the worst in my opinion, it means you are depressed and will get over it, if you are depressed you won't try to say that "so you would put me through so much pain because you are depressed and going to kill yourself?" When one of my friends said this i felt so guilty and maybe you should try cuz he would like to go out probally knowing you will think of good things. Sorry if i didnt help.

[PostMentalFerocity]

Originally Posted by Rika17

your friend is in need of help, he needs to be taken to a phycologish right away

Not necessarily. As someone who is formerly suicidal, I know that sometimes bringing in outsiders can make it worse. The best option would be to get a group of friends together for an intervention.

[Guardian Soul]

It's very difficult to change someone's mind when they're suicidal.

Try to make him remember a moment in his life that made him very happy, and ask him if he really wants to let go of those memories. And tell him that if he cares about you at all he'll keep himself alive just for you.

You could also stay with him and make sure he doesn't try to kill himself.

[Livi]

Originally Posted by Rika17

It's seems to me that your friend is depressed

Um, no duh? Next time give her some advice/help on the topic instead of stating something obvious.

So, how is everything going DarkShadow?

[dark___edge]

At least you told him how much you cared for him. Do his parents know about his suicidal behaviour? He really needs to see someone quickly or get professional help. There's nothing much that you can do. It relys on himself and his parents. What you can do is tell him how much you care about him, boost his self esteem and try your best to make him see the positives in life. He needs another girlfriend... not someone who uses him like that. I've had this happen b4. My friend Melissa and my friend Kristi tried to commit suicide and I tried it before too. Just tell him what would happen to you and his friends if he committed suicide... how it would affect you and his parents and his friends... etc. He probably won't commit suicide and hopefully he won't. He's very depressed... if he threatens to commit suicide again, call the hospital or bring him there. They will know what to do.

[TheLastKnight]

hm, yeah...Try seeing a physo.

other than that, I can't say much...

[darkshadow666]

he keeps looking depressed at school.
yesterday i was in a meeting for a club called S.A.V.E (students against violence everywhere) which i joined FOR HIM because they talk about suicide and how to help people. he kept coming in and saying "i need to talk to you now." and i couldnt...then the meeting was out at the end of lunch. he wants to break up with his girlfriend because i made him see that shes the cause of the whole thing, but if i know her she'll put him on a guilt trip and he'll end up feeling worse.
i think ill have to eventually say something to her. me and my friend Sharleen are both worried about him. he kept her from committing suicide last year, so she thinks that if she cant keep him from it then she'll go crazy or get addicted to drugs or something.

[Livi]

That's horrible. D: You should really say something to that bitch of a girlfriend he has. I know I would. I'm glad you got into that S.A.V.E thing. It should really help. You should use some of that advice they gave you on suicidal friends, if you haven't yet.

[darkshadow666]

we're going to a conference about teenage suicide next month.
i hope its soon enough though. i bet it will be though...me and my friend seem to be keeping him from doing really stupid things like jumping in front of cars.

[Morning Twilight]

wow. Ok, I've felt like this plenty of times before, and I go to www.freewebs.com/helmofsalvation. They have plenty of people who know what they're talking about. They help me out a lot. It's anonymous, you do it on your own time. No shrinks, no appointments, no picking. They know what they're doing and they tailor to the desires of the person. They are non-proffit and just want to help.

[gottaluvkh1992]

you should talk to him and make sure he doesnt talk about sucide when try to talk about things he likes and enjoys

[TheLastKnight]

That almost sounds inhumane, but try to help him the best you can...The internet is not the greatest help for help/support... anything coming from your heart/mind is

[Nintandy]

Sadly I've had a lot of friends like this.. and I've even lost someone. It's not actually something which is discussed often over here, but it's still a big issue T_T. I've had to act as counseller amidst my friends on numerous occasions.

The key point is proving life is worth it. No matter how depressed you are, there will always be at least something to appreciate in life. Imagine yourself to be within a small torchlight. The world around you is coated in darkness. In that tiny speck you cannot see much ahead of you, nor behind, and you are trapped. You need to expand that light and see what there is around you, the positives .

I know how tough it can be, truly. I've been through it myself. You just can't give up, and neither can your friend. Be there for him like you always have been. Show him the world, and your happiness. Prove to him this is a single shot at what should be a fantastic and enjoyable life.

You can do it, and so can he. Just broaden the horizons, and with perseverance you can try and convince him otherwise.

[TheLastKnight]

yeah, show them a fun time