UHHHHHHHHH-OH. . . Derek Has ANOTHER *Problem?*

[CAB_IV]

Originally Posted by Guardian Soul

So, pretty much, you just like her for her looks? Maybe you just admire her actions. I don't know.

But I really think you should get to know someone before liking them, especially when you don't even know if they're single or not. One time I liked this girl, and I wanted to know about her, but I barely talked to her. After a week of thinking about her I found out that she had a boy friend (she dumped him for me anyhow, but the fact remains the same).

But anyways, after getting to know her by being in the relationship, she turned out to be a complete retard.

So, in conclusion, you can't judge a book by it's cover.

also a very good point.

make sure you know what you are investing your emotions in!

[Fuse]

HAHAHAHHAH!!!!! don't fool yourself! its called infatuation. the first time that happens its like running into a brick wall.

Your a big help.



Anyways Derek.
I've been in your situation once.

As a matter of fact. The girl I date now is that very girl.
A happy 1 and a half years =].

I'm 15
I was 14

I say go for it man.
Get to know her more and just talk.

and most important of all : be yourself.

I hope everything works out
and we are all here for you =)

[CAB_IV]

Originally Posted by FuS3

Your a big help.

and one secret... all relationships start as infatuation. When i say don't fool yourself, i don't want him running in like "oh i'm in love!" even though it feels like that. you may get lucky with the girl you are with, but everyone is different. Perhaps i do point out the realistic veiw way to often, because on the other hand, one is often braver if they don't know they are inches from some sort of horrible failure (although the situation in this case doesn't seem that bad, so don't worry derek!)

anyway, infatuations can lead on to a healty, loving relationship like yours.... or 3 years of hell. I just want to make it clear that these "newbs to love" need to know that love doesn't always work. they can't go blindly into it. And be honest, when you started realizing you had real feelings for that girl, it hit you hard, lol. it might not of hurt, but at some point you must have went "DAMN! i never felt like this before." thats the brick wall.

you know how the best laid plans of mice and men go.

additionally, i feel like i see stock advice in these forums, or any other forum for that matter. I'm sure "be yourself" has been posted atleast twenty billion times. In fact, its surprising that anyone wouldn't try to be themselves, especially when you only see that plastered over ever TV show with a relationship ever made...

in the end, i feel that this is also taken to seriously. some people really do need to change and grow before they can get to where they want to be in life. i think to many people have said to me "i'm afraid to change because its not how i act and/or how people see me" its detrimental if one sticks to the old ways, when they can grow to be better, and they'd do it to all if they weren't afraid to break this "be yourself" rule. Atleast try something new, you know?

[Infinite Nova]

Originally Posted by Guardian Soul

So, pretty much, you just like her for her looks? Maybe you just admire her actions. I don't know.

But I really think you should get to know someone before liking them, especially when you don't even know if they're single or not. One time I liked this girl, and I wanted to know about her, but I barely talked to her. After a week of thinking about her I found out that she had a boy friend (she dumped him for me anyhow, but the fact remains the same).

But anyways, after getting to know her by being in the relationship, she turned out to be a complete retard.

So, in conclusion, you can't judge a book by it's cover.

Well, I guess Ryan didn't read that much, did he? :/ No, What I'm saying is I DON'T like her for her looks. I'm saying she's cute, but that's NOT what attracts me to women as much as a personality. Yes, looks are important, but I'd rather have a cute girl by my standards with a great personality, than a bitch supermodel.

I mean. . . I'm not gonna lie, I'm not too popular with the ladies. Most of them just look at me and go like. . . "EWWWWWW", or some shit. But this girl actually talked to me like a regular human being, instead of treating me like something you find on the underside of your shoe. Which, in my opinion, is stupid, because thinking somebody is "worse" or "not as good" as you deserves a slap in the face and a kick in the nuts (guy), or a shaved head (girl).

So. . . yeah. I'm going to take it slow.

[Aly-chan]

So. . . yeah. I'm going to take it slow.

Exactly what you should do. If you go too fast, like I said, you'd both be in an uncomfortable situation. D:

[CAB_IV]

Originally Posted by Demonic Angel

Well, I guess Ryan didn't read that much, did he? :/ No, What I'm saying is I DON'T like her for her looks. I'm saying she's cute, but that's NOT what attracts me to women as much as a personality. Yes, looks are important, but I'd rather have a cute girl by my standards with a great personality, than a bitch supermodel.

I mean. . . I'm not gonna lie, I'm not too popular with the ladies. Most of them just look at me and go like. . . "EWWWWWW", or some shit. But this girl actually talked to me like a regular human being, instead of treating me like something you find on the underside of your shoe. Which, in my opinion, is stupid, because thinking somebody is "worse" or "not as good" as you deserves a slap in the face and a kick in the nuts (guy), or a shaved head (girl).

So. . . yeah. I'm going to take it slow.

yeah, just be real careful. when you find a girl like this, its easy to damage the "human treatment". as everyone has said a billion times, slow and steady.

not to be detrimental to your efforts, but also make sure shes really what you are after, and you don't just like her because she gave you a little extra respect.