lol hai guyz its moral dilema time =D

[Cameron]

Alright, so I have a girlfriend. Or, I did. Do. I'm not really sure how that's working out right now. Anyways, I like her a lot, maybe even love her, and she loves me back.

Picture perfect serenity, right?

lol rong

See, for a while now, I've been getting back in touch with a friend of mine I met over the summer, this girl I actually dated twice before. Niether time worked out, however, seeing as how I was too shy back then to actually, you know, do anything. However, since school started, I've acted less and less like that, and she recently told me she finds that side of me really attractive, and that she likes me. Mind you, this was during a three hour phone conversation we had today, if that helps my case.

Now, this girl is smart, witty, and the kind of person who isn't willing to be pushed around and won't settle for anyone who will grovel to her. And to top it off, she's beautiful. So, believe it or not, I've had a crush on her that's rapidly been growing since about a week ago.

However, enough about her. You must be thinking at this point that I'm a shallow little bastard who doesn't care at all about his girlfriend. It's the exact opposite, actually, I really do like her, as I've said. She's like the other girl, funny, sharp, and attractive, but she has this more innocent feel to her than the other one, which, of course, I like. In fact, she'd be the perfect girl if it weren't for her parents. They're seriously domineering people, who refuse to meet me, and absolutly refuse to let their girl meet with me or talk to me over the phone. All I've got then is AIM, school, and the occasional party we both happen to be at. However, as rare as it is, I really love that scarse moment we get to spend together, alone.

Earlier this night, my gf found out about my crush on the other girl, and confronted me about it. It ended up with us putting our relationship on hold until summer, when she'll have more free time. So right now, I'm technically free, and I still like the one girl I met over the summer. I could easily get together with her, but I don't know if I want to do that to my girlfriend, especially since she hates the girl. The feeling isn't mutual, of course, it was kinda formed by the whole me liking her thing, so the second girl would be dissapointed, but not actually hurt if I chose my girlfriend over her. At least, I don't think she would be.

So, I guess the problem boils down to whether or not I wanna drop the girl I like but can never do anything with and probably never will be able to and go with the one I also like, but can hang out with just about every day.

help plz?

~Dorian Gray

[Ichi TK]

So, let me summarise.
You had a thing for a girl a while ago, but it never worked out. You were very happy with your current girlfriend but you re-noticed the other girl from before. Your girlfriend found out about this and (by the sound of it) became very jelous and needs some time to cool off.

A few clarifying questions about people involved. These do effect the course of the advice so I like to ask before charging in with telling people to do things.
1. How old are your girlfriend-on-hold and the girl from the summer?
2. How long hadyou been with your latest girlfriend?
3. What kind of relationship did you have with the summer girl?
4. How strong were your feelings for the summer girl when you were with her?

[Athletics Legend]

Omg..lol

Okay, well go out with the girl u like most between the two...

[Ichi TK]

Originally Posted by Sora Blade 16

Omg..lol

Okay, well go out with the girl u like most between the two...

I think one of the main points is that he can't decide which one that is...

[Cameron]

I think one of the main points is that he can't decide which one that is...

It's not often I have problems like this, when I do, it's usually because I've got farily complex issue. If it was that simple as just deciding which I liked more, I wouldn't be here :\


Anyways, Ihchi;

1.Both are fourteen at this point.

2.Around a month and a half. I know that doesn't sound that long, but we've built up a pretty good relationship in that period.

3.It was nothing big, mostly kissing, hugging, teenager kinda stuff. The thing is, I was afraid to even do that much, I was seriously really shy at the time. Now I've got much better at handling romances, so I'm thinking we could have a more serious relationship. And no, that does not mean sex >_>

4.Not as strong as how I like the current girl, but I think that could be because we never really connected all that well. The shyness issue was a prominent part of us breaking up, mind you.

~Dorian Gray

^^ YO WHAT?

why are you so hung up on 14year olds if your 19? That is ILLEGAL!!

no wonder her parents wont meet you...

[Shadukai X]

^ I hate to be mean, but please don't be an idiot. Who cares if its illegal? Romance is beyond laws. You should learn that, youngin'

Personally, I think this whole thing is over with the one you took a break with, chances are she'll find someone else, and I"m saying this out of experience.

Don't rush to the other one either, just hang out with her occasionally as friends, and see how things go from there.

~Shad

^^

You cannot be SERIOUSLY that you find it normal for someone to be this hung up or attracted to somebody that much younger than him?

And thenask for help about it?

Come on. Unless youre reading this with your 11 or 21 year old girlfriend...

[Cameron]

lol Shad u douche

I have no idea how many times I've had to tell this to people on this site, but I'M NOT 19 YEARS OLD. I'm thirteen, turning fourteen in may >_>

Also, her parents are severing her from ALL HER FRIENDS. When I say that they're domineering, I kid not. They are the kind of people who'd rather beat their daughter to death than see her hanging off some boy. Her dad died when she was three, and although her stepdad cares about her, he's far too overprotective, and actually seems to think I'm a drug dealer because of my longish hair. There's not helping those kind of people, if I want to stay with her I'll have to wait until summer.

~Dorian Gray, who's sure as hell not into pedophilia x.x

[Tobuoi]

I know this isn't much help, and forgive me if it's rather rude or blunt, but if you say or think that you love both of them, you probably don't love either of them. Just think about that...if you're having trouble deciding which one you would rather be with, odds are, a different, even better girl for you will come along in the future...if you're looking for a serious relationship, like you said earlier, I would back away from the entire thing. However, if you would like to take your chances with a fling, go ahead and pick.

Also, I know what you're talking about when you say that you never got a chance to "connect well"...I was just recently dating a guy who's a freshman in college (I'm a sophomore in high school) so we never got to see each other. And it turns out that we didn't really know each other the way that we thought we did, even after nine months. And despite how hard we tried (or, at least, I did...), it really didn't work...in the end, we just got angry with each other, and I really don't have any intentions of getting close to him at all, in the future. Keep that risk in mind...

Hope that this was at least somewhat helpful...

[kairigirl]

^Girls fall much too easily for older guys...*sigh* (heh...long story, serious, you're all too newb to know it, I believe) :]

Dorian: First, go talk to Manchester or Monkey and just get one of them to change your birthdate. :/ Make your life easy.

Second...I agree with Toboui. How can you like two girls at once? And no wonder the girl's jealous. You like two girls. Shoot, I'm jealous that the guy that I like has a girl on his top 8 on his myspace even though I don't think he likes her like that. (I don't even know the girl and I don't like her just because of that. <-<). At your age, yes, 13-14ish, your mind will change in a year or so. See how easily it changed between the two girls? One other thing: if you didn't have strong feelings for the summer girl when you were dating, why would you have them now? You guys may just not connect. I'd say figure out all your feelings, let your other girl calm down, perhaps build just a friendship with the summer girl, and see what happens in the summer. You may just end up with two good friends. That's alright. Two good friends are two good friends. Besides, 16's about when you're going to start getting serious about stuff (no, not sex stuff, I'm one of those people that pushes for abstinence, you don't have to follow my lead, but it's better to wait) and you don't want to make mistakes early on. Some girls aren't going to like that.

[Shadukai X]

Originally Posted by dark hero Riku

^^

You cannot be SERIOUSLY that you find it normal for someone to be this hung up or attracted to somebody that much younger than him?

And thenask for help about it?

Come on. Unless youre reading this with your 11 or 21 year old girlfriend...

As A matter of fact, my GF is 18, and I'm 16

How ya like dem apples?

[Cameron]

He's talking about a five year different, Shad. Where I'd be in College and she'd be in Middle School x.x

Thanks for all the suggestions, guys, I'll comment a bit after I get some sleep ._.

~Dorian Gray

Originally Posted by Shadukai X

As A matter of fact, my GF is 18, and I'm 16

How ya like dem apples?

I would like to help you, obviously your Catholic school neglected to tell you something about math-

14+5=19
16-5=11
16+5=21

these all show a difference of five years

18-16=2
This shows a difference of two

5-2=3

That is a difference in three years.


Welcome to first grade math!!!

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Okay Dorian, thats better. Now I can say that if your gf puts it onhold till summer,take the other girl. She cannot rationally expect you to wait that long (your gf). So- DATE THE OTHER CHICK

[Katattack]

Well, gee, Fenny. I must say that if television has taught me anything in this world, it's that what your girlfriend means by: "Let's put it on hold till Summer" actually means: "You're still mine. *Hisses at any other life-form that approaches Fenny*"

._. Unless you want the whole... Ross/Rachel relationship... I'm pretty sure your current gf wouldn't like you to start up something with summer-girl.

However, you might want to think about how long you're willing to wait for this young lady to make up her mind. =o