Dating problems

[Home bound]

I've never had a girlfriend in my life. The closest I've been was two years ago. but my friend got with her.

[Royale]

Hey if there is someone that can help me then can you cause theres a girl I think is cute at my school but I dont know her so my friend talked to her, since he knew her, and my friend told me that she thinks im "ok" and I tried to talk to her on the computer and she responded one time but after I said something she didnt reply and today I sent her something else but she didnt reply to that so am I being annoying to her, she probably didnt like me that way or what?

What did you write to her?

Maybe you should go up to her during school so she knows you're not afraid of talking to her, ya know?

[big don mega]

i'm in dire need of help. i'm in love with this girl and have been for a long ass time now. of course the feelings have been on and off and it wasn't love at first, but now it is. but there are problems. one is that hers best friend is the mother of my child. she says that she loves me, she's great with my daughter, and i love her, but another problem is that shes a type of person to use the term love freely so if we do get together than we might not last to long. another thing is that im not sure how loyal to me she would be considering that she has a boyfriend and is telling me that she loves me, but 2 things that should be mentioned are that she said that she was going to break up with him, and that i'm not the type of person to take cheating lightly. she would be dumped but whoever she cheated on me with would get my true fury. please know that i don't know for a fact if she would cheat on me and i do trust that she wouldn't if she said so if we got together. the thing that i need help with though is weither or not its a good idea to go for it since it may lead to bad things like me not seeing my daughter as much, which is only possibly not definatly, or her cheating on me and me loosing my fu**ing mind on the guy and putting him in the hospital, which is also only a possibility and not definate.

[Zero]

I tried to talk to her because my friend told me that she kinda liked me but she didnt respond to my messages so I told her that I thought my friend lied but she said she couldnt reply to the messages at that time.So then we got over that and started to talk some more and it was going good until i told her how look now and not on my picture and she didnt reply after my messages when I told her so I started to say all these things and now were just friends in a way but im not sure if it could work out after all that.

[CAB_IV]

dude, you're thirteen.

relax already, you should have waited.

[Stavvy]

So you screwed up, don't be sad. Cab's right, you're 13, you have many, many, MANY more years to find someone. It happens to us all.

[Ningacom]

Originally Posted by insoulent

I've never had a girlfriend in my life. The closest I've been was two years ago. but my friend got with her.

w/e, relationships aren't that importent.

i'm in dire need of help. i'm in love with this girl and have been for a long ass time now. of course the feelings have been on and off and it wasn't love at first, but now it is. but there are problems. one is that hers best friend is the mother of my child. she says that she loves me, she's great with my daughter, and i love her, but another problem is that shes a type of person to use the term love freely so if we do get together than we might not last to long. another thing is that im not sure how loyal to me she would be considering that she has a boyfriend and is telling me that she loves me, but 2 things that should be mentioned are that she said that she was going to break up with him, and that i'm not the type of person to take cheating lightly. she would be dumped but whoever she cheated on me with would get my true fury. please know that i don't know for a fact if she would cheat on me and i do trust that she wouldn't if she said so if we got together. the thing that i need help with though is weither or not its a good idea to go for it since it may lead to bad things like me not seeing my daughter as much, which is only possibly not definatly, or her cheating on me and me loosing my fu**ing mind on the guy and putting him in the hospital, which is also only a possibility and not definate.

If you love her, and you can date her, then do it. If you think that she would cheat on you, then perhaps the two of you aren't as close as you thought. Trust, it's an importent thing.

I tried to talk to her because my friend told me that she kinda liked me but she didnt respond to my messages so I told her that I thought my friend lied but she said she couldnt reply to the messages at that time.So then we got over that and started to talk some more and it was going good until i told her how look now and not on my picture and she didnt reply after my messages when I told her so I started to say all these things and now were just friends in a way but im not sure if it could work out after all that.

sounds like she's not intrested. You could try to continue attempting conversation, but if you don't get results then just forget about it.

[Zero]

She still talks to me but im not sure how she feels about me since she never responded.

[Stavvy]

Then maybe she's not so sure herself. Give it time, see what happens. If it works, good. If not, then it wasn't 'supposed to'.

[Sora_Rox_My_Sox]

everybody seems to give such great advice i think i will share my problems with you!
8D

there is one guy that i really used to like. Last year, we never dated, but we knew we liked each other alot. I asked him to our "end of school" dance, and he said yes. that day, he failed to mention that his parents were taking him on a camping trip the same night as the dance. so, i was dateless. it made me mad bc he didnt tell me he was leaving and i looked like a retard.

this year, i got over my anger at him. me and him had subtle crushes on each other for a long time, and then as Valentines day approached, he made it more obvious. he asked me on a date, he asked my to be his gf, and he asked me to the Valentines dance. i said yes to all three, thinking things were differant from last time, and things were going great for a couple weeks. he was perfect, in a sense, and i think i really might have loved him. well, thursday night, the night before the dance, my friend calls me and told me he dumped me over something i had said about my friend making out with a guy.

so, for the second year in a row, he left me dateless at the dance. i was more sad then pissed, cuz i thought wat he said to me was real and meaningful. he said we should go back to being friends, even tho our whole fight was over a misunderstanding. things have never been the same between us, and i have moved on. i like other guys now, but its not the same. there is still a place in my heart that belongs to him, and i cant really get over him even tho its been many months. i hate liking him still, even tho i dont love him like i used too. any help?

[Stavvy]

*Insert I Hate Everything About You by TDG here*

Well, I don't think that things will ever go back to the gf/bf state again, and even if they could, would you really want to risk it, being stood up for a third time? Sometimes it's really hard to get over someone, it can take days (if you barely cared) to months (in your case). Trust me, I know from experience, you will get over him. It will just take a good while. Try to do something that distracts you from thinking of him, if that helps.

Question: Are you guys still friends?

[Sora_Rox_My_Sox]

well, friends in a very loose term. i rarely interact with him anymore, maybe he will comment to me about something in school a couple times a week, sometimes he will IM me. whenever he signs off he says "luv you" which i know means nothing, but he hasnt said it since we broke up and he is just starting to say it again now. so i suppose its a sign that he is letting go of the tension. the truth is, i tend to avoid him.

when i see him flirting with other girls, i just turn away and pretend not to care. i definately took more impact from this than he did, but i suppose it was for the better, although i have had suspicions about my "friend" that called me. i am starting to think she lied to me about him dumping me so she could break us up, cuz a only a day after he dumped me she said she liked him. doesn't matter though, it wouldnt have worked.

no, i would never date him again, not after 2 times of failure. but i hate that i still like him. thanks for the help tho, i am sure i will be over him soon enough. i just hate it, he was the only guy i was ever close to. we were each others best friends as well as bf and gf. oh well, not dwelling on it.

[Zero]

Sorry to just post in the middle of your thing Sora but I was wondering how long should I talk to her before asking her out cause school is over on June 9th which is only 8 days away and if I later ask her out on the computer it would be pretty dumb.

[Stavvy]

You could ask her on the last day of school, but would you honestly be able to sustain the relationship throughout the whole summer? Be able to go on dates and whatnot, even though (I'm guessing you're both in the same age group) neither of you can drive? You may just have to wait until next year (school year). You could always ask her to go out with you and a few of your (and her) friends. Not really a date, but something closer to one. Then work your way from there.

Sora, you'll be fine, if you need to talk about it, PM me, or I could give you my WLM and we could talk from there.

[Sora_Rox_My_Sox]

lol, isnt Stavros quite the love guru?
well thanks for the help

this is my inner newb being revealed, WLM?