More than a friend?

Key Kaliber · October 17th, 2008, 01:31 AM

One of my best friends asked me if i thought we could ever be more than just friends, and i'm really not sure what to tell him because of these factors:

1. He's a great friend.
2. Not sure that i see him as being more than that yet.
3. I've just gotten out of a 2-year relationship with someone else.
4. He's just gotten out of a long-distance relationship.

I hardly knew my previous boyfriend when we first started out, and that didn't go too well. So i'm thinking maybe this could be better since we started out as good friends.

My friends have all said "why not?" and other such things like "you guys have a great friendship which is always a good start."

But i need a second opinion, and maybe third, fourth and so on. What should I do/tell him? Should we give it a shot? Any general advise? Plz and thanx :D

DaDarkDude · October 17th, 2008, 01:42 AM

Well, first of all, do you like him? Or is the maximum level:

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1. He's a great friend.

Baiser! · October 17th, 2008, 01:46 AM

Eh, the general worry here would be "if we break up, it might ruin our friendship"
but if you have a lot of faith in your friendship, and you see some possibility there
for a romantic relationship, then there shouldn't be much holding you back from letting
the relationship grow. One suggestion (since you say you both got out of a
relationship RECENTLY) is waiting awhile. If you've been friends for a while, waiting
a bit to go into a romantic relationship shouldn't be that big of a deal.

Also you said you don't know if you see him more as that YET
the best idea would to be testing that, allowing yourself to try and get to that level.
Go on a date-- couple of dates, see if there's a spark of infatuation.

faith, patience, and building chemistry
once you got that down, go for it. :]

GlaneTheMuffin · October 17th, 2008, 02:20 AM

Go for it!
Well, when your ready, that is.
If you're as good friends as you say you are, he should understand if you want to make sure saying 'yes' is the right choice.
Don't say yes because he wants you to say it. Say it if you know YOU want to say it.
When you're ready, try going on a few dates and see what happens. If they turn out great, you've got a great opportunity! If they don't, well.....
...
anyway, I wish you the best of luck!

Lycanthrope · October 17th, 2008, 02:54 AM

Go for it, you have nothing to lose.

And that "friendship ruining" stuff is complete and total bullshit. If you 2 really are great friends, it won't change anything.

Trimms · October 17th, 2008, 03:02 AM

I've got to agree with everyone else that there's nothing to lose. If you've reached that point as friends, it shouldn't matter what happens in the end.

Just imagine how happy it will make him if you do go out with him... it seems like every time I go befriends a girl, then after many a month or year finally tells them his feelings, it never works out. It would be nice to see change!

TheMuffinMan · October 17th, 2008, 03:07 AM

You should touch his penis.

Crimson · October 17th, 2008, 10:05 AM

I'm nearly in a same situation....
You should try it, and if it doesn't work out, it's okay. You can still be friends. :D

Colours · October 18th, 2008, 04:08 AM

It wouldn't feel right, when your in a relationship with your Best Friend. They already know everything about you, and it's to obvious. Plus it wouldn't feel right to date you BF. ((=3

Sahvergnugen · October 18th, 2008, 04:12 AM

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Originally Posted by TheMuffinMan

You should touch his penis.

Yeah, like thats gonna help

Iridium · October 18th, 2008, 04:14 AM

Now I wouldn't say that, Phil, there's still a possibility that it could work out.
Many relationships happen among best friends so it's possible.

Honestly it's nice when the person you like or vice versa knows you quite well, reduces the effort of getting to know them.

I'd say go for it, you were best friends from the start so if all doesn't go well what do you have to lose?

Colours · October 18th, 2008, 04:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Yttrxium

Now I wouldn't say that, Phil, there's still a possibility that it could work out.
Many relationships happen among best friends so it's possible.

Honestly it's nice when the person you like or vice versa knows you quite well, reduces the effort of getting to know them.

I'd say go for it, you were best friends from the start so if all doesn't go well what do you have to lose?

Maybe.
As for me, it wouldn't work out.<333