Family Dispute?

[Imperial Chaos]

Eeeyeah...Another 'family trouble' thread...

Anyways, lately, the folks have been busting my chops about everything. I tried to recall every little thing that I've done to somehow upset them.

I've only done one mistake. ONE mistake. And that was going to a remedial lesson without my parents permission. That's it. No more, no less. Because of this, my parents have been 'dissapointed' in me. And for what reason? Just becuase I didn't ask for permission to attend it. It was a freakin' remedial. A chance to catch up on the lessons I missed when I was sick. I even apologised to them.

And they kept reminding me that I didn't ask their permission again and again. I retorted back saying it was important because this one remedial would depend on a final mark for an upcoming exam because it would make up at least 60% of the practical exercise.

They didn't care and merely warned me to not raise my voice at them again.(Although it was mostly my mum.) My dad agreed with me but was still slightly upset. All he did was just frown and nod but he relunctantly agreed with me but warned me to ask for permission next time.

As for my mum, she's always been a bitch and always has been. She's been ignoring me lately and she keeps sending me words of discouragement(read insults). It's pissing me off lately and I have trouble just holding my anger in to not punch her lights out.

All I can say is thank god for the training dummy that I use to beat up. Only problem is that I get angrier as I imagine my mom's face on it.

Now then, questions are...how do I solve this shit with my mom and a way to 'vent' my anger.

Thanks for taking the time to read this, Help is much appreciated.

[Yannis]

Originally Posted by Imperial Chaos

Eeeyeah...Another 'family trouble' thread...

Anyways, lately, the folks have been busting my chops about everything. I tried to recall every little thing that I've done to somehow upset them.

I've only done one mistake. ONE mistake. And that was going to a remedial lesson without my parents permission. That's it. No more, no less. Because of this, my parents have been 'dissapointed' in me. And for what reason? Just becuase I didn't ask for permission to attend it. It was a freakin' remedial. A chance to catch up on the lessons I missed when I was sick. I even apologised to them.

And they kept reminding me that I didn't ask their permission again and again. I retorted back saying it was important because this one remedial would depend on a final mark for an upcoming exam because it would make up at least 60% of the practical exercise.

They didn't care and merely warned me to not raise my voice at them again.(Although it was mostly my mum.) My dad agreed with me but was still slightly upset. All he did was just frown and nod but he relunctantly agreed with me but warned me to ask for permission next time.

As for my mum, she's always been a bitch and always has been. She's been ignoring me lately and she keeps sending me words of discouragement(read insults). It's pissing me off lately and I have trouble just holding my anger in to not punch her lights out.

All I can say is thank god for the training dummy that I use to beat up. Only problem is that I get angrier as I imagine my mom's face on it.

Now then, questions are...how do I solve this shit with my mom and a way to 'vent' my anger.

Thanks for taking the time to read this, Help is much appreciated.

Your parents are awful. That´s not bad at all, what you have done.

You can do nothing to them. Dont beat them up, you get only to trouble.

You are 15, maybe you can wait couple of years and leave them. When you are separated, the hate will fade away.

[chaywa]

Put as much work as possible in in order to obtain the final grade you desire, i'm sure you're parents would much rather know that the session helped refocus your mind into achieving your full potential rather than just going wayward outside their control.

Actually I do believe what you did was, perhaps not wrong, but you could've been a little more considerate letting your parents know prior to the event what you were doing, and why you were doing it. People are naturally insecure so the more information they know prior, the likely better they'll deal with the outcome.

[violent_anger]

Uh, make a show of telling them something that you'll do. Really exaggerate it. Tell your mom that you're going some place, and emphasize a lot of words. Anytime she complains, you can then retort that you learned your lesson.

[ViVi94]

Uh, make a show of telling them something that you'll do. Really exaggerate it. Tell your mom that you're going some place, and emphasize a lot of words. Anytime she complains, you can then retort that you learned your lesson.

I should do that, one time, I got yelled at because I went to my friends basketball game because it was the championship and I wanted to be there for her. I told my mom the day before... guess what happened? SHE FORGOT! My mom started yelling at me and didn't believe me when I told her I mentioned it yesterday! She always forgets important things like that. So yea, next time, I'm going to say "Yea, mom, I'm going to the MOVIES... you know, the one off Cline? The MOVIES... remember. MOVIES. Not the store, not a wild party. the MOOOOOVVVIIIIEEES." And I'm going to tape it too. :D

But yea, a very simalar thing happened two years ago. I stayed after to learn how to make a paper crane for reading because I didn't get it. My teacher said it would take five minutes. So I thought, okay, I won't have to mention it to my mom because it takes me five minutes just to get over to her car, so it would kind of defeat the purpose. Well... my stupid teacher which EVERYONE in the school hates by the way. Lied, it took 20 minutes, and I even left early because I knew my mom would be worried. Well, her car wasn't there when I got out, so I started walking home (in the rain) Then, when I get home, her car wasn't there, so I stayed there until my mom got home. She started ranting and screaming at me because I made her worry. (I was thinking the whole time, "WTF? If she was so worried, why is she screaming right now?) She even tried grounding me! But my awesome aunt told her how stupid she was acting and mentioned how I was doing the right thing by staying after to try and get an A on the origami thing. So... I guess, if you have an awesome aunt, bring her into it :D.

But yea, another thing I do, is bring up things she messed up on. Like letting my 5 year old brother watch Adult Swim one day even though I told her not too. He was saying the F word every five minutes and we couldn't get him to stop! So I always say things like "at least I didn't turn my brother into a cussing sailor!" And she knows what I mean to this day :D

[big don mega]

if she's yelling at you for trying to better your education, then tell her that your dropping out. i'm sure that she won't mind you trying to better your education anymore

[Imperial Chaos]

Originally Posted by big don mega

if she's yelling at you for trying to better your education, then tell her that your dropping out. i'm sure that she won't mind you trying to better your education anymore

Dude. What the hell? No way am I going to drop out. I may not be smart but I want to get an education to achieve my goals and dreams. Yes, my mum is a bitch. Yes, my mum insults me and ignores but she was the one who brought me into this world and who took care of me until now.

I may say I hate her, but I love her just the same.

Anyways, thanks for the advice guys but I wanna see if anyone else has other solutions. I'm all ears. :D

[Noo Monkey]

Family violence is NOT OK! (the ad keeps reminding me)

Since you seem to be threatening your mother with violence, you may need to see a counsellor (I hear they're good at solving problems).
Also, you should sit down and have a nice, long, loud chat with your mother. Get all your anger out, settle things, then kiss and make up. Or something.