Mother

[MarluxiaNo11]

Last year on November 26th my Mother died of a serious illness which everyone knows of as cancer.
I have recently been doing my GCSE exams in school and it is only now that it has hit me that i will never really see her again untill the afterlife.

I was just wondering if i could have a little help and support on how i could try and get through this while keeping my family happy as well.

[aquaVen]

aww man im so sorry... all you can do is remember her in your heart, glorify the good memories of her! she loved you and shed want you to go on with life and be happy, so justify her love by being happy and leading a good life...

[Pelafina]

I'm sorry.

Don't lock out her memory, it'll only make things worse.

[MarluxiaNo11]

Yeah, I don't i keep them safe its just you know what i mean.. hard to come to terms with the facts i just am in need of a few mates around me at the moment, that includes forum ones =]

Thanks for the support

[Raeneth]

Always keep her in your mind and your heart, even if it's painful to do. Keep your chin up, since I'm sure she wouldn't want you to be upset over her. Besides, why should you feel sad if you're going to see her in the afterlife? You just have to wait a little longer to see her again :3

Don't rush yourself to try and get over it, as major deaths can take years to fully accept and "get over". Always be open to the option of finding someone to speak to if the feelings get too overwhelming. It's okay to feel sad about things like this, so don't feel you have to get over it quickly.

[MarluxiaNo11]

Yeah i understand what you are saying about not getting over her to quickly which i won't i don't thin i can.
and thanks for the afterlife thing =]
Oh and please don't feel i have posted this on here just for attention as i can guarentee you with my trust which is the most i can give you that this is not that and that i genrally do need help.

Thank you =] You are extremly helpful in such short time

[ShinuXIII]

just like dont forget her, but dont think about it
give yourself time and let yourself know just how many ppl care about you and {withing my beliefs} she's right next to you. ^_^
like just two weeks ago a good freind of mine killed himself.
and his girlfreind{who is my best freind} didnt want anyone around her
it was her way of dealing with it.
you need to find your own way to there's a bunch of difforent ways to deal.
like he was the second person i lost to suicide
my dad killed himself to but i leaned twords my brother as my father figure
and thats how i delt with it.

[MarluxiaNo11]

Im so sorry =[.
Yes i agree she is always next to me that is my belief as well.its the only way i cope as i made promices to her and i want to keep them

[ShinuXIII]

good keep all the promises you made ^_^

[Leonard]

Originally Posted by MarluxiaNo11

Oh and please don't feel i have posted this on here just for attention

Don't worry, we've had that before, these times are over.

The other posters in here are right, denying it would be a terrible decision.

It can always help to talk about other people who knew her, father, siblings, grandparents, about what you feel, and especially, what they feel and how they deal with the situation. And maybe even learn from them.

Feelings like these should never be kept to yourself, it often helps to talk about it and let it out. Especially since you already stated that some company would help.

You just need to watch out that these feelings don't get out of control and effect your personal life with things like depression, though. Don't forget to concentrate on your own future too and live on.

Balance is the keyword. :D

I'm positive that's what your mother would think, too.

[MarluxiaNo11]

Thank you very much. I didn't expect such a lovely lot of support from such very down to earth people=].
You all seem like you have endured so much and your all very knowing.
You should all think about having a job in counceling your all brilliant =].
I feel a whole load better knowing people can be so kind.
And yes your right my Mother would think that.