A Dilemma I've Come Across

[T-M]

Hey there guys. It's TwilightMan, coming at you with personal dilemma of mine. There was a girl that I was dating for 5 months, but we broke up back in January on her decision, because she "wasn't ready for a relationship because of what she's going through right now," which is bullshit because I don't see how you've been with someone for 5 months then say you're not ready for a relationship. Then, in March, she got together with her ex that she said she hated because he cheated on her. I asked WHY they got back together and she said it was because they "got everything out in the open."

Then, early in April, he got expelled from their school, and now they haven't seen each other. I still have huge feelings for her and she still has huge feelings for me. She wants to go back with me, but she's still going out with the guy shes with. She loves him as well, but she still loves me. I don't want to be a rebound guy, but should I wait until she breaks up with him to get back with her, or should I just stop being friends with her? I really am facing a dilemma and I want all of your opinions.

[InfiniteTwilight]

If I were you, I'd try staying with her and watch on the sidelines on how their relationship goes through. It's possible that they might break up and that would be the chance to take, but not right away. You could still stay friends. Sorry if this isn't really good advice.

[Thelonepickle]

She sounds like a horrible person.

You sound like a pretty gullible person.

If you want to be That Guy, go ahead and wait around for her. XP

[TWDIS]

maybe dont get back with her yet and see if she is like: "lets get back together". then you will really know if she really wants to.

not the best advice I know but *shrug*

[Lycanthrope]

I'm in a similar boat. The girl I like is in a relationship with someone from her school. Which happened 2 days after we hooked up. She has feelings for both of us. It's gonna be awkward to talk to her probably (it was for me)

Just try to get inside her mind and see how she feels I guess. Can't really help you. Sorry.

[Pelafina]

Originally Posted by Thelonepickle

She sounds like a horrible person.

You sound like a pretty gullible person.

If you want to be That Guy, go ahead and wait around for her. XP

I have to say it TM, but this is probably the best advice you're going to get.

[Guardian Soul]

Originally Posted by Thelonepickle

She sounds like a horrible person.

You sound like a pretty gullible person.

If you want to be That Guy, go ahead and wait around for her. XP

Yeah, she sounds pretty horrible.

It's beyond me why people get so attached to pathetic forms of human life.

[Snow Candy]

Oh my gosh, how do I say this? Have you thought about things over and still like want her, OKAY stupid question. Well I don't know but I think you should give her one more chance and IF you have a GOOD feeling about it, I'd say go for it but make sure she actually can CHOOSE between one of you. I mean, she can't HAVE both of you unless she wanted a friend, then in a way, that's different. Let us know what happens as the weeks go by. It might give us an idea but for now, take whatever you can get, oh and if your not feeling good about getting back with her or whatever, get over her and move on...or at least try to.

[aquaVen]

What you need to do is act uninterested in her after they break up... make her pursue you, make her make the move! she likes you because she knows she has that control over you, why else would she suddenly decide to come back to you? she knows your there emotionally and physically so if u take urself out of her life shell realize what shes missin and come after you and if she doesnt then i think you should move on to someone new and nicer and less complicated!

[Donnie Yen]

Forget about her. Get someone else.

Not only are you too young to be attached to one girl only for such a long time, but you can do better than her. She doesnt sound like it's worth it.