some guys messing with my girlfriend

[blinkboy211]

Well you really don't know how the girl feels i mean you said you only been going out for 2 weeks.

But if you want to solve the problem and do not think your girlfriend will do something then step up to him and say something already. Stop being a wuss about the situation. Of course you try to stay non-violent but if your values from Europe are being affected them you need to take action instead of sitting there playing with your thumbs.

[Sephiros_TH]

Ya know I think I'll just tell him how we'd do it in old country and that if he really decides to step on my toes I'll snap and let out my inner Czech. That and inform him that I know of his most embarrassing moment which I can easily use as a fallible weakness against him. I think it over, I'm just worried It'll piss my girlfriend off since she insisted I do nothing, but hey you win some and you lose some right?

[blinkboy211]

Originally Posted by Sephiros_TH

I really like this girl and I hope this relationship will last but this guy has to stop cuz he's messing with my cultural boundaries and I can't take much more.

Originally Posted by Sephiros_TH

You make a good point but outside of school she's not like that at all and she really does care. She's the only one who was there for me when I went into depression, all my friends just sorta left. That and she is really all I have, I kinda lost everything after going into depression and now I'm trying to rebuild and its going really slowly but its getting there. I just don't want to lose everything all over again just because of something dumb like this. on the other hand I don't want to blow up and do something stupid.

I think it over, I'm just worried It'll piss my girlfriend off since she insisted I do nothing, but hey you win some and you lose some right?

Wow the first 2 quotes of yours shows you may like the girl but the last quote almost shows you done care. Yeah step up to him and tell him how you do it in the old country i dont think that will matter if he punches you first and your on the ground. Why not try talking smart first. Say you would like to not see him do that to your gf again. Say it is disrespectful to you and you would like for him to stop.

[Sephiros_TH]

He couldn't touch me, besides he's to afraid of me. He wouldn't do something like this if I could fight back but here I don't know. And about my first two quotes sounding different from my last, well I've lost everything before and if this guy matters to more then I do then so be it. Besides how do you talk respectfully to some one who holds no respect for you or your people?

[blinkboy211]

Easily show that your the better person. But i guess that would be to hard for you i guess. The best way to solve the problem is to express it to him personally if your girlfriend isnt trying to stop him. And if you dont care about losing a gf then i guess the relationship doesnt matter anyway so you can just solve the problem by breaking up with her and looking elsewhere for love.

[Sephiros_TH]

your right I chose my words hastily and without thought. But I'm afraid love elsewhere is unlikely. After my suicide attempts and the like I really just don't find that likely and like I said right now she's really all I have. I guess for her its different since she kinda grew up in an area where stupid stunts like this are the norm and she can't really see it from my perspective since she never grew up in the CR and doesn't understand our ways of pride and respect. I really don't know what to do, all this advice is really good but I'm still really confused and thanks to my depression I'm really bad at making decisions. I'll sleep on it and see what unfolds tomorrow, hopefully he'll get the message and stop.

[Adamus]

i'd rather do the "he gets close, i get closer". But yeah if he aint stoppin confront him, if she aint stoppin him..........break up while you still can, trust me. If you have trust issues or are disturbed by this guy touching her, chances are she'll always be like this. Ppl make sacrifices in relationships, and if she continues to let him touch her even if she did tell him to stop once, then obviously she's not playing her part in the relationship.

you need to sit down and talk with her about the issue, and i mean talk

you dont have to entirely agree with me though, i've never had a gf through some issues psychologically (not insane, just extremely timid of girls i do like)

[Sephiros_TH]

ya know I've thought about that. I seem to be giving her my all. I've changed so much about myself just for her and she just acts like its just another day like when we were friends. I don't know if she's afraid to show her feelings for me in school or maybe she just isn't that close to me yet, I don't know. But a talk with her sounds good, I just don't want to make her feel bad is all because in the end this might all just be in my head I'm not exactly psychologically all there and small things do become big things fast.

[Adamus]

true definitely, a talk is more suffice in the situation obviously. If there's a wall she cant get through, all i can say is that you need to find a girl who is willing to except what you give, and give back for it. Change altogether

A relationship is like wheels on a car, they have to balance at the same direction to move where you intended the car to.

Your relationship is basically wheels going in different directions and that car either spirals, or doesnt move at all.

Relationships are hard from what i understand, i mean my parents divorced when i was 2, and the arguments where so severe, i actually remember them. Even my sisters have crazy relationships. Because of this, i always think twice before throwing myself to someone. I often have to clue myself whether marriage is real anymore nowerdayz, or ppl are just doing it because its a norm (that's pretty sad)

[Domon Kasshu]

:v If she's still allowing him to touch her tits and ass even after you told her to tell him to stop, then that might be foreshadowing something.

If he keeps feeling her up, and she hasn't told him to stop, then break up with her. If I was in your situation, I wouldn't want to date a girl that lets some guy I hate touch her even after I've told her that she should tell him to stop.

Either that or get in-close and personal and jam it up her ass.

[Agent007]

^ lol, that's just wrong. Idk, I skimmed through this pretty quick but how old are you and how old is she? I mean where it's only been two weeks and she's acting like that, I'd say it's time to move on. Unless you really like the girl, it could just go from bad to worse later on.

[Adamus]

Originally Posted by Jay Chou

:v If she's still allowing him to touch her tits and ass even after you told her to tell him to stop, then that might be foreshadowing something.

If he keeps feeling her up, and she hasn't told him to stop, then break up with her. If I was in your situation, I wouldn't want to date a girl that lets some guy I hate touch her even after I've told her that she should tell him to stop.

Either that or get in-close and personal and jam it up her ass.

Originally Posted by Agent007

^ lol, that's just wrong. Idk, I skimmed through this pretty quick but how old are you and how old is she? I mean where it's only been two weeks and she's acting like that, I'd say it's time to move on. Unless you really like the girl, it could just go from bad to worse later on.

my words exactly LOL
but seriously, if things don't change, well...............theres a whole sea of girls to ring in. Give it time, trust me

[Sephiros_TH]

Yep all good stuff. He laid off today, that might be part to that we had Gym and I out lifted him by like 100 lbs. Any way I'm sixteen so, yeah I'm kinda young for this but what the hell. We have a date for tomorrow and thats the last chance I'm giving her, if things don't change then so be it I'll move on. I'm not designed to take this kind of punishment.

[Ningacom]

To the ppl who say kick his ass, no. You can't solve these kind of problems by beating the hell outta someone, it only makes things worse.

I'll be VERY honest and VERY blunt with you, dump her. If you told her that letting some other guy touch her pisses you off, which you shouldn't have to do in the 1st place b/c that's bs, and she openly ignores you then that says she doesn't give a rat's ass about your personal feelings.

And if she does stuff with some other dude that she doesn't do with you, her bf, that should tell you something right away.

[trazin]

Originally Posted by Sephiros_TH

Yep all good stuff. He laid off today.

good for you dude i hope he lays off your girl if he doesn't show him your strength