Problems again

[Ningacom]

WEW! It's me, Ningacom. Anyway, I posted a thread like a month back about this girl who asked me to this Semi-Formal thing. So I ended up going to the dance with her

and it was pretty awsome.

But now i have a new problem. I like her.... a lot. And I'm almost positive she likes me (or it might just be my imagination, or my ego.). The problem is I don't know what to do O.O.

I kinda wanna ask her out, but at the same time I don't like the idea of dating . But I also don't want her to think I don't like her. And I thought about just telling her I like her, but I don't want to date her. But that seems weird and kinda lame. So I've resorted to this, halp meh T_T

[CtR]

At the end of the day love, members on a forum can't really tell you exactly what to do with your personal life xD those are the decisions you are going to have to make yourself, (annoying isn't it? would be nice if it was so simple xD )

However, I will ask you this. Which idea is worse, her thinking that you don't like and you lose her completely in that way even if you did one day decide she was worth it, or taking a chance telling her you like her and maybe dating? Of course it is natural you would be unsure if you don't know for definite that she does like you back that way. Maybe tell her you like her but you are unwilling to rush things?

If you don't take the chance how will you ever know? Of course that is just my opinion.

Whatever you choose to do, I wish you luck ^^


As for the reluctance to date issue. I know you say you do not wish to date, but the thing with dating is that it doesn't have to be all rushed and fast. You can take it as slow as you wish. Don't be afraid of it.

(:

[Azanulbizare]

Just ask the bitch out and be like "Hey babe, gimme your name and number."

[Leonard]

Yay, looks like we've got a new Help & Support section spammer.

Anyway, I'll just try to seperate your situation into pros and cons about dating her:

pros: - You want to do something to get closer to her
- You don't want her to feel like you don't care about her
- You'd have to tell her about your feelings the "weird" way

cons: - You don't like the idea of dating

Now you just have to look which one's more significant to you.

Personally, I can't think of any other way of getting to know her better and be close to her, than dating and hanging around with her. (But that might be because I've never been in a situation like that. Maybe you can come up with some other way.)

But, as CtR said, this is a this you probably have to decide on on your own, we can only help you a little. ^^

[Tobuoi]

Well, may I ask what your apprehensions towards dating are, exactly?

[Azanulbizare]

Originally Posted by Tobuoi

Well, may I ask what your apprehensions towards dating are, exactly?

He's 15 .

[Tobuoi]

And I'm...sixteen? I'm only a year older and I consider myself to be in a solid, fun relationship. I mean, it obviously varies from person to person, and perhaps there are underlying reasons beneath the fact that he's 15. That is to say, maybe his apprehensions are common of 15-year-olds in that they haven't figured out what exactly it is that bothers them. Not just the fact that they're 15. If that made any sense at all.

[Azanulbizare]

Originally Posted by Tobuoi

And I'm...sixteen? I'm only a year older and I consider myself to be in a solid, fun relationship. I mean, it obviously varies from person to person, and perhaps there are underlying reasons beneath the fact that he's 15. That is to say, maybe his apprehensions are common of 15-year-olds in that they haven't figured out what exactly it is that bothers them. Not just the fact that they're 15. If that made any sense at all.

I could've elaborated. 15 is the age in which boys, as well as girls, are being introduced to the concept of relationships. Some dig the idea, others are scared shitless. He's scared shitless, you can tell. When you were 15, were you in a healthy, solid relationship? 14?

[Ningacom]

Originally Posted by Tobuoi

Well, may I ask what your apprehensions towards dating are, exactly?

Whelp

A) I don't understand the concept of dating, if that makes any sense at all.
B) I have no ****ing idea what I'm supposed to do
C) I don't handle intimate situations well >.<;

At the end of the day love, members on a forum can't really tell you exactly what to do with your personal life xD those are the decisions you are going to have to make yourself, (annoying isn't it? would be nice if it was so simple xD )

Haha, that would be nice ^^. I understand ya'll can only help me out so much, but I like the opinions of those not directly involved in the situation

He's scared shitless, you can tell.

QFT

[Azanulbizare]

Originally Posted by Ningacom

Whelp

A) I don't understand the concept of dating, if that makes any sense at all.
B) I have no ****ing idea what I'm supposed to do
C) I don't handle intimate situations well >.<;



Haha, that would be nice ^^. I understand ya'll can only help me out so much, but I like the opinions of those not directly involved in the situation


QFT

qft? Internet language?

There's no shame in being scared. You said it yourself, you have no clue what to do. Therefore, you fear being put in the situation that requires you to act around women.

Hey, simpleton, why don't you try comprehending what I am telling you instead of just reading the words.

[Tobuoi]

Uh, dearie...I think that was "Quoted For Truth."

And admittedly, at 14, I was in a rather crash-course relationship, but at fifteen, I was mostly just speculative. Anyways, I get your point, I just wanna look a little further into it.

Ningacom, for now, just contemplate how much you enjoy hanging out with her by doing so. If you do enjoy it and start to feel genuinely comfortable around her and the same goes for her feelings for you, consider dating her. I think that you'll know whether or not you should date her after being around her, long enough. When it came to me liking my current boyfriend, I wasn't terribly concerned as to whether or not we'd end up together, I just enjoyed the prospect of being around him. I think that that's what you should be on the lookout for.

Of course, if there's more to it, please let us know. I'm really kind of taking a wild stab at it, currently.

Oh, I appologize if some of that was difficult to comprehend...I'm on the phone, at the moment.

[Pelafina]

Your choices:

a: You like her enough to date her, you do so.
b: You like being sigle enough to ignore your feelings, you do so.

Pretty easy stuff.

[Azanulbizare]

Quoted for truth? Oh.

Anyways, the best advice anyone could give you would to just be yourself. I'm sure you've heard it a million times over, but there is no better advice when it comes to women. If you get shot down, big deal. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

Just relax. There isn't anything to be worried about.

[Pelafina]

Yes, being yourself is great, just don't go overboard.

She doesn't care about your [insert obsession here], that'll only scare her away.

[Ningacom]

Originally Posted by Morningstar

Your choices:

a: You like her enough to date her, you do so.
b: You like being sigle enough to ignore your feelings, you do so.

Pretty easy stuff.

You make it sound so simple ;. Athough you are right...

She doesn't care about your [insert obsession here], that'll only scare her away.

hehe, I'm not that lame. Give me some credit ;P

Of course, if there's more to it, please let us know. I'm really kind of taking a wild stab at it, currently.

Well...

We do actually hang out quite a bit during school (not like every 10 minuets, but we have two classes together where we usualy talk ), so we're already close-ish. The problem is that I really don't know if I even really like her. I mean I do.... just I'm not positive if it's just spur of the moment, hormone teen stuff T_T. And I don't want to get all involved in this when it just ends up being my emotions screwing with my head. I truely hate being a teenager....