Problems again

[Leonard]

Originally Posted by Ningacom

We do actually hang out quite a bit during school (not like every 10 minuets, but we have two classes together where we usualy talk ), so we're already close-ish. The problem is that I really don't know if I even really like her. I mean I do.... just I'm not positive if it's just spur of the moment, hormone teen stuff T_T. And I don't want to get all involved in this when it just ends up being my emotions screwing with my head. I truely hate being a teenager....

Well, if you even consider this possibility yourself, then there is indeed a kinda high chance that it's really just your emotions screwing with your head.

You could now either try to maintain a "friend-like" relationship with her until you are sure about your feelings, or you could just follow the saying "if you never try, you'll never find out". At the moment, I see no other options. =/

[Tobuoi]

Ehhhh...I dunno. I have a tendancy to obsess over very brief infatuations, so I typically make myself wait at least two months before fessing up. But that's just me. When I told my other friends who've been dating each other for nearly a year how long I'd liked my current boyfriend, they responded, "THREE MONTHS?! Jesus, and you still haven't started dating?"

So, time will tell, most likely. Your feelings for her will either intensify or they'll dwindle and eventually, you'll know her answer. You'll loose interest in her completely or you'll reach a point where you can see absolutely no reason not to date her. At least, that's my guess according to my own measly "experience."

[Princess of KH]

The only way you are really gonna know if you actually like her, or if your emorions are just fooling you: wait. I'm not saying you have to wait for years until you absolutely know that you like her - that's not what i mean. When i say to wait - i mean to wait a while until you know her better. Sometimes, you think you like someone, but then you realize you actually don't once you get to know them really well.

It's best to be her friend before you try & start a relationship. Friendship is a trial for relationship - it shows whether or not a relationship will work between you & them. You get to know a lot about them, then you can decide. You don't have to know every single detail about them & their life - but it IS good to kn ow them really well before you jump into a relationship.

If you don't like dating, don't worry about it. If you like her, then just be friends for right now. Dating doesn't have to be the "serious, sole ties to each other, spend every mintue of the day together, call each other every ten mintues on the cell, go on dates all the time alone" kind of thing. I don't even want to date like that - i'm not interested in dating right now, either. (but i don't hate my teen life)

Just do what you think is right, & good luck!

[Ningacom]

Well... I've been thinking about it. I like her... but I'm not sure why. So I'm thinking this is just random teenage hormone affection.

BUT!!!

I generaly don't like most girls (I'm not gay, it's just they make me want to kick small animals.) So it makes me wonder, if she is one of the few girls that I can stand, that would infer that I DO like her...

So, time will tell, most likely. Your feelings for her will either intensify or they'll dwindle and eventually, you'll know her answer. You'll loose interest in her completely or you'll reach a point where you can see absolutely no reason not to date her. At least, that's my guess according to my own measly "experience."

The thing with that is.... I don't have paetiance (I also can't spell). I really don't want to spend 2-3 months thinking about this, feeling that damn feeling in my chest when I see her, ect.

[SuperNova]

so,your completely unsure if you like her or not,or that if she's perfect for you or that you have to wait to see what you feel?

[Ningacom]

Originally Posted by mon

so,your completely unsure if you like her or not

atm I do like her... but I don't know if that will last

or that if she's perfect for you

I don't use the word perfect, nor do I look for it in others


also, today she told me some other chick was flirting with me (I have no idea if she was or not, doubt it). Should that tell me anything about how she feels about me???

[Tobuoi]

Lulz, I pull that tactic when I'm jealous. "OMG SHE LIEKS U," expecting/hoping for him to reply, "NO SHE DUSNT"

[Ninja Usagi]

Continue to be her friend, but still lay subtle flirts occasionally. Not all the time because she'll think SOMETHING is up, right?


But you could just start dating her. I don't see why you wouldn't want to.

[Ningacom]

Um.... I had an odd day. She asked me if I would go to the movies with her tomarrow O.o; and I said yes...



so yeah, I'm rlly worried now. What if she like... tries to hold my hand or something??? What do I do? On one hand, that would be a good thing for me. But on the other I'm still unsure if my feelings are legit, and how much of an ass would I be if she ends up liking me and I'm just like "Oh...my hormones were ****ing with my head, sorry."? And now I have to figure out what movie we're gonna see (oh joy)

Also am I the only person who thinks about these things this hard?

[HeartlesGuardian]

If I were you, I'd go out with her, and if it turns out you don't like her, just tell her relationships aren't my thing, lets just be friends

[Leonard]

Originally Posted by Ningacom

Um.... I had an odd day. She asked me if I would go to the movies with her tomarrow O.o; and I said yes...



so yeah, I'm rlly worried now. What if she like... tries to hold my hand or something??? What do I do? On one hand, that would be a good thing for me. But on the other I'm still unsure if my feelings are legit, and how much of an ass would I be if she ends up liking me and I'm just like "Oh...my hormones were ****ing with my head, sorry."? And now I have to figure out what movie we're gonna see (oh joy)

Also am I the only person who thinks about these things this hard?

First of all, I think it's a good thing that she made the first step forward, it's easier for you. xD

Second, if you are truly not really aware of your feelings, just hang out with her for a little while, maybe you'll find out when you spend a little more time with her and get to know her a little better. ^^

If nothing helps and you still can't be sure, (and if she starts with the love confessing crap) I guess it can't hurt to try to talk with her about these doubts.

There are two pros to that method:

1. She might just feel the same and not be 100% sure herself.

2. It's better to talk about the subject before it's too late and it would just cause a big disappointment for the two of you.

Well, all I can do is wish you good luck with the "date". Congratulations, you're one of the lucky guys the girls actually approach first. ^^

P.S.: But keep in mind, these are just suggestions.

[Ningacom]

So I we went to the movies (saw 21, not to bad). And... nothing happened. But that's a good thing! (kinda) I mean... it could have been A LOT worse. Like she could have stood me up (almost thought she did XD came in like 4 min. before the movie started), or tried to make a move. But she didn't, and I'm content with that. I just need to chill, and let things work as they will. And I did not mean for that to rhyme.

Also I'm now positive my mom's bf is intent on killing me via driving accident T_T

[Pelafina]

Well handled Ningacom, keep going with your present pace.

[khluva010]

Originally Posted by Ningacom

So I we went to the movies (saw 21, not to bad). And... nothing happened. But that's a good thing! (kinda) I mean... it could have been A LOT worse. Like she could have stood me up (almost thought she did XD came in like 4 min. before the movie started), or tried to make a move. But she didn't, and I'm content with that. I just need to chill, and let things work as they will. And I did not mean for that to rhyme.

Also I'm now positive my mom's bf is intent on killing me via driving accident T_T

lol well it's obvious you have commitment issues but your only human. So, your little day with her could of meant two things

1) She was testing you to see if you like her.

2) She did it as a friendship thing.

Now, were there other people there, or just you and her? Cause that'll explain how she feels about you. But good luck at whatever you're trying to do. Hope everything works out.
:D

[Ningacom]

Originally Posted by khluva010

lol well it's obvious you have commitment issues but your only human.

Well duh ;P

So, your little day with her could of meant two things


1) She was testing you to see if you like her.

2) She did it as a friendship thing.

Oh joy, pressure ;

Now, were there other people there, or just you and her? Cause that'll explain how she feels about you. But good luck at whatever you're trying to do. Hope everything works out.
:D

...that depends...which one is the right anwser O.o;? Jk, it was just the 2 of us... ZOMG DISCO FEVAH!!!!