Not another relationship thread!!!

[Pelafina]

Originally Posted by Smooth

??? how does a restraining order come from texting a friend/classmate? -.- u make no sense. I didnt say send her perver stuff or stalk her.... if she gives him her # then obviously she expects him to contact her for one thing or another.

The way I took your post was-

"Hey, can I have your number if I ever need to call you for a school project?"

"Sure, I guess..."

[Texts start coming in about non school related subjects]

I'd be creeped out, that's all I'm saying.

[Forever Atlas]

Originally Posted by Alethal

The way I took your post was-

"Hey, can I have your number if I ever need to call you for a school project?"

"Sure, I guess..."

[Texts start coming in about non school related subjects]

I'd be creeped out, that's all I'm saying.

nah you see? you gotta play it cool, like lets say there's a class project (hopefully she is a good student... if not, then forget her xDDD lol she'll be a waste of time! jk):

but you see, dont give her much of a choice lol, dont force her, but give her an answer already like (not randomly but obviously within a conversation you might be having with her) since obviously he cant take the direct aproach and just either tell her how he feels or ask her straight up for her #:

confidently: "Hey. Let me get your number. Ya know, jus in case of anything." (dont give her too much room for questioning your reasonings)

if she asks for what for just tell her (and once again hopefully she is a good student) : "well if I miss out of class or anything, you are a reliable person to catch up on stuff with."

then one day that you might need an assignment or w/e, or help, simple stuff call or nah, text if you have probs havin a convo with her: "hey did you understand the HW" or something simple like that. or "what were the pages for the assignment again?"

now if she replies with an obviously straight answer no room for any "social talk" like "pages 225-245" instead of "hey whats up? yeah its long work pages 225-245" then she probably doesnt really care to talk to you lol

BUt if she does send the latter text, then you can take it from there and maybe be like "aww man i hate it when mr. (insert name) gives us all these pages to do."

it starts off a conversation.... now if she's like just "pages 225-245" and you are really adamant on getting to talk to this girl and having her get to know you, then you could ask for elaborations on the assignments and then the next day, thank her and try talk a little about the HW possibly.

then take it from there. if she got a myspace lol get her myspace. comment on her pics "wow you look good there" blah blah lol

Girls love flattery.... (no offense to the intelectual female on here who doesnt -.- bs lol)

Now this is just an example. I mean conversations can go so many ways, all im saying is make way for conversation, you have to put yourself out there to talk to her and really grab her attention. Find out the things that make her talk, find a common ground or common interest. Then the conversation will flow. dont focus on "liking her" and dont focus on trying to find "the right things to say" that will just make u nervous.

or heck you dont even have to go thru all that lol. Like if you get her number and text her one day, dont let it be the first thing u text her... hopefully (most ppl do) you have a cell wit camera on it, and hopefully she does too. ask her for a pic for her pic ID. then when she sends it, you better reply with a compliment like "wow, really nice pic you look beautiful in it." something to that effect lol... then that'll get her wondering, is he being nice? or is he really into me? and chances are she'll ask and there's an open opportunity

anyway im no Dr. Phil, but thats jus one option. :-p

[Pelafina]

Wow, I didn't expect a long response.

Now that you've put it this way, I concede defeat to your strategy.

[Sorarules13]

Smooth.... your a genius!!! Your idea is so perfect because she texts a LOT! Sadly I just now looked at your post after school so it's too late today lol. But I'll try tomorrow.

Today I was this close to talkin to her. It was last period and we had just finished watching some kind of boring movie. We didn't have anything to do after the movie and most of the class was out today because of sports so the rest of us just got to hang out and talk. The guy sitting next to me turned around to Yasmine and said" I bet you liked that movie didn't you?"( the movie was based on a book and she reads a lot of books) And she said "No, that was boring! I like scary movies" That was my chance! The guy next to me started talking to the guy next to Yasmine. Then I started sayin something about a scary movie I saw on tv( i think it was the original Holloween which wasn't that scary to me) but she completely ignored me! She just started texting again. I tried to remain positive and tell myself she wasn't ignoring me on purpose. Maybe she thought I was talking to the other 2 guys. I figured I would try again after she finshed texting. But then a friend of hers(which is also a friend of mine) named Grace came up and started talking to her. And when those two start talking(and sometimes being stupid. stupid in a good, funny way I mean), they don't stop. So I blew my chance. Oh well.

I'm in a very good mood today for some reason so I figured I'll get many other oppurtunities later.

[Eternal Snow]

Ok, in a girl's opinion, Smooth's plan to get her number and ask about assignments is pretty smart. Because if a guy did that to me I wouldn't think much about it, I would just take your reason. As long as

A) It isn't stupid; Ex - "Can I have your number because I lost my planner and I can never remember the homework," or something like that. That just says, 'I want your number so I can text you constantly.'
B) I actually knew you somehow. I mean, if a random guy came up to me and asked, "Can I have your number just in case?" I'd be like, "No." Because I have no clue who you are, though it does seem as if you've talked to her before, so this doesn't really count. xD

Anyways, I recommend you just be yourself, because if she doesn't like you as a person then being someone else isn't going to help.

Now this part is mainly because I know Jub Jub376 (even though I call him JJ) and I really feel the need to point a "couple" things out. Yeah, you might learn something. Mainly because, sadly, I'm the Sammii in his sig. >.<

Originally Posted by Jub Jub376

Whatever happens, keep cool. Don't be nervous mate, just talk. Swallow whatever nervousness down, and just go with the flow (I am sooo turning hippie :D)

Yeah you would know JJ, when you first start talking to me I believe, "Ummm. . ." was used alot. Oh and my favorite, "I dunno. . ." Then of course when you ran out of things to say you cyber beat up Roxas with a cyber fold-out chair. Yes JJ, you're Captain Smooth.

FYI - Babbling like an incoherent idiot will not get a girl to like you, however, it will make her realize that you like her. (and so will putting thier name in your signature against their will, JJ.)

And talk about something interesting. But don't try talking about the weather (unless it's snowing or a tornado is like about to hit..or hurricane..or a meteor shower..hehe..), and try talking about something she is interested in.

Guy: We're all going to die from a meteor shower/tornado/hurricane/snow storm tomorrow.
Girl: Why?
Guy: Because. . .uh. . .the. .. uh. . .dsfjdshfdsvdsjkgjf. . .
Girl: *walks away*

Now honestly, the point of talking to her is to get her to like you. Not to get her to think you're a freak with mental problems. Stay far, far away from the topic of 'we're all going to die tomorrow.'

If she's interested in a movie, talk about it. If she's interested in a toothbrush WHATEVER, talk about it.

Guy: Hey do you like toothbrushes?
Girl: Uhm. . .
Guy: Cause I LOVE toothbrushes.
Girl: Ok. . .
Guy: I mean they come in so many styles! I have a Tigger one at home from when I was five!
Girl: I think my friend just called me. . . *quickly turns around* COMING! *runs away*

There are obviously some topics that you do not want to talk about, because maybe the girl likes bras, do you really want to get yourself into a conversation about that? NO. And frankly, if a guy started talking about bras to me my first thought would be, "GAY!"

And be sure to eat something before chatting, or during, like at lunch. Show her you can eat properly and not like you live in a pig sty.

Guy: Yeah, I thou-
Girl: Are you ok?
Guy: *throws up on her from nervousness*
Girl: EWWWW! *never talks to guy again*

Yeah, there are other ways to show you're not a pig, and if you're nervous while talking to her the last thing you want to do is eat. There's a good chance that you may, or may not throw up. Depending on level of nervousness.

Trust me, there are very few girls who would ever talk to you again after you threw up on them.

And the manners. Be polite, blah blah.

This is obvious, any guy who comes up to a girl and says, "YO HOE! WHAT'S UP!"
Will get an answer of being kicked in the balls.

And yes, ALCOHOL IS A LIQUID COURAGE! / Sarcasm. Being drunk will only impair all of your senses, including sight, speaking legibly, walking correctly, and a restful awakening the next morning.

Yeah, yet again, throwing up on a girl does not in any way make a good impression, and to do it drunk just says, 'Future Bum - Class of *insert year*'

And just be yourself. Most of those of the feminine side of the human race tend to prefer men who just be themselves.

We also tend to prefer that the man is older, but that's entirely different story.

[Ningacom]

Originally Posted by Eternal Snow

Yeah you would know JJ, when you first start talking to me I believe, "Ummm. . ." was used alot. Oh and my favorite, "I dunno. . ." Then of course when you ran out of things to say you cyber beat up Roxas with a cyber fold-out chair. Yes JJ, you're Captain Smooth.

QFT, stay away from those words. Also, the one- 2 worded awnsers. "Yeah", "I guess", and "Me too" are not awnsers to use in conversation

There are obviously some topics that you do not want to talk about, because maybe the girl likes bras, do you really want to get yourself into a conversation about that? NO. And frankly, if a guy started talking about bras to me my first thought would be, "GAY!"

EY! I consider that male sexism. THere are straight dudes that....talk about bras! >.> <.<;

We also tend to prefer that the man is older, but that's entirely different story.

I KNEW IT!!!!!

[Sorarules13]

The thing I'm having the most trouble with now is just getting started talking to her. It would be weird if I( a guy that's only said about 10 words to her over the past year) just walk up to her 1 day and start talking to her about some random topic. How the crap do I get started talking to her??!!!!

Also, it would also be weird if I just walked up to her and asked for her #
Me: hey can I have your #
Her:...why?
Me: uuuuuhhhhh.... homework
*awkward silence*
Her: I'm going to go over there now
*she walks away

[Forever Atlas]

lol, well you said you both have the same friends... so dont be afraid to put yourself in with your friend while she/he is talking to her, that way you can get involved in the conversation.

[Ningacom]

Originally Posted by Sorarules13

The thing I'm having the most trouble with now is just getting started talking to her. It would be weird if I( a guy that's only said about 10 words to her over the past year) just walk up to her 1 day and start talking to her about some random topic. How the crap do I get started talking to her??!!!!

That's what I'm thinking, you need to get a BIT closer to her before you ask for a number. Also, don't tell your friend. Don't tell any friends, u'll regret it.

If you're down to your last breath (metaphorically speaking) (ZOMG i can't spell) you could always show off u're mad Mage skillz ;P.

[Pelafina]

Originally Posted by Ningacom

Don't tell any friends, u'll regret it.

Don't tell anybody. Ever.

Seriously, you will regret it.

Someone will get a kick out of telling her, and there go your hopes and dreams.

[khluva010]

Originally Posted by Sorarules13

Ok well there's this girl in my class that I like. A LOT! But, we're not really friends.

Oh well that can be a problem... lol j/k

Originally Posted by Sorarules13

I mean every so often I would talk to her but we never exactly had a whole conversation. I'm like 99.9999999999% sure she dosen't like me though.

Always have confidence. But don't be too confident when you become cocky. That's just a big no no! lol Being a girl (and I hope ALL girls feel this way) you must have confidence. saying sentences like that will only lower your chances for at least talking to her. And what ndo you two talk about when you do talk?

Originally Posted by Sorarules13

But I think I may be seriously in love with her.

Whoa!! That's a bit extreme!! :o

Originally Posted by Sorarules13

She's perfect for in every single way(well, nobody's perfect but you know what I mean)! Can you all help me kind of move our friendship along so I can maybe tell her how I feel later.

well first off, what makes her "perfect?" that's always something to think about. But like most people are saying take it slow and try to charm her a bit. You know make her laugh, make her smile, that good old corny stuff. But whatever you do don't stalk her!!! please tell me you're not a stalker!! lol j/k

Originally Posted by Sorarules13

Oh yeah, and I'm changing schools after the end of this school year so I want to at least be good friends with her by the end of the year

well....... that..... sucks!!!!!! lol umm yeah well make some good conversation. get her number, her AIM all that good stuff. ;]

Hope this help, if not I'm sorry.

[Sorarules13]

Well guys I was gonna post here yesterday but I was in a bad mood so here I am today lol. Well, today our school had this thing at the park by our school, It wasl like a fundraiser or something like that( yay! out of school early!) and all we had to do was walk around the park 2 times then hang out till it was time to go. Well, it got REALLY BORING! Anyway about an hour before we had to go home, me, 2 or 3 other friends, and Yasmine were just sitting around talking. So I actually got to talk to her some!! Afterwards they all got together and Yasmine wanted me to take the picture of them. Yay, things are finally starting to look up for me!

I still didn't get her # though but, oh well.

[Forever Atlas]

Originally Posted by Sorarules13

Well guys I was gonna post here yesterday but I was in a bad mood so here I am today lol. Well, today our school had this thing at the park by our school, It wasl like a fundraiser or something like that( yay! out of school early!) and all we had to do was walk around the park 2 times then hang out till it was time to go. Well, it got REALLY BORING! Anyway about an hour before we had to go home, me, 2 or 3 other friends, and Yasmine were just sitting around talking. So I actually got to talk to her some!! Afterwards they all got together and Yasmine wanted me to take the picture of them. Yay, things are finally starting to look up for me!

I still didn't get her # though but, oh well.

YAY! lol yep you see? like i said as long as you get yourself in a conversation with your friends who are her friends things should work out so that you two talk more :-D

[khluva010]

Originally Posted by Sorarules13

Well guys I was gonna post here yesterday but I was in a bad mood so here I am today lol. Well, today our school had this thing at the park by our school, It wasl like a fundraiser or something like that( yay! out of school early!) and all we had to do was walk around the park 2 times then hang out till it was time to go. Well, it got REALLY BORING! Anyway about an hour before we had to go home, me, 2 or 3 other friends, and Yasmine were just sitting around talking. So I actually got to talk to her some!! Afterwards they all got together and Yasmine wanted me to take the picture of them. Yay, things are finally starting to look up for me!

I still didn't get her # though but, oh well.

oh well thats good. :]
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[Pelafina]

Originally Posted by Sorarules13

Well guys I was gonna post here yesterday but I was in a bad mood so here I am today lol. Well, today our school had this thing at the park by our school, It wasl like a fundraiser or something like that( yay! out of school early!) and all we had to do was walk around the park 2 times then hang out till it was time to go. Well, it got REALLY BORING! Anyway about an hour before we had to go home, me, 2 or 3 other friends, and Yasmine were just sitting around talking. So I actually got to talk to her some!! Afterwards they all got together and Yasmine wanted me to take the picture of them. Yay, things are finally starting to look up for me!

I still didn't get her # though but, oh well.

Well done.

Now you have some sort of excuse to talk to her at school.