are condoms really that reliable? [mature convo]

[Cloudy_Card]

damn, i guess it is. i had my boy and girls ages mixed up, but i wouldve been off too.

yes, abstinence is safest, but condom and (if only worried about pregnancy) pill use is the best way if you dont want to deprive urself

[Funky Bear]

Please ppl all you guys are worrying about nothing.First off when it's your first time ask your partner if it's their first time.Or just use a condom if your so damn worried.plus if the person girl you get pregnant then you have two options:

1.Raise the baby with her

2. Run away and avoid any baby daddy drama

Both are very good options but option 2 I can guarantee that you,ll be hated for.My cousin who used be college dropped out becuz the girl he was with got pregnant and had to raise the baby.The sad thing was though that she dumped him. :( (Thou I never like her,a fatass and had a badass atittuide.

[Cloudy_Card]

ummm, theres also the option of abortion.... thats always a good idea when it comes to unwanted pregnancy, but thats a different topic entirely.

[The ScaRyucrow]

2. Run away and avoid any baby daddy drama

They'll have to deal with the 'baby daddy drama' at some point in their life anyway. Whether it's in the form of regret, the kid wanting to know who his father is, etc. If someone decides he/she's responsible enough to have sex, regardless of age, then he/she should accept the consequences of it, if there are any.

Very good choices my ass. >_>

Either way, what everyone else said, abstinence is the safest way. If you want to make 100% sure there's no chance of a pregnancy until you're able to provide for a baby, then abstinence is the way to go. Hence waiting until marriage with sex is the best option.

And I agree with monkey and kg, that whole human nature talk is bs. It's human nature to have certain sexual desires at some point, but it's also human nature to keep those in control until they're ready to use, not just from a physical but also an emotional pov, so to speak.

[Morpheaus]

Like Ryu said, self control and common sense are also a part of human nature.

[sealightbreeze]

Oh, sealightbreeze: just read the end of your post. Hm, I've never heard that before, I thought your body stopped the period because it's already got a kid growing inside. o-o That's usually why people say if you didn't have your period for that month you might be pregnant. o-o My question: where'd you hear this? I'm not saying you're wrong cause honestly I'm not 100% sure, seeing how I haven't had sex yet nor do I listen well enough, nor have I ever been pregnant, but meh. I'd like to see your sources. o-o

I am taking a women's health class for college. It says that you can still have your period when you are pregnant. It is not the same type of blood, but it is possible. http://www.drspock.com/article/0,1510,6004,00.html

[kairigirl]

((You're..22...? @-@ I feel like I should apologize, I've thought you were younger. o-o))

Ah, I see. Most of the stuff I know is what I've heard from people, in or outside of family, so some is from experienced peoples or just rumors or whatnot. Ah, thanks for the info though! It pry just depends on the person.

[>.Oblivion.<]

ok, just update-age... I'm not afraid anymore.. I just took two preg tests and both were negative.

[kairigirl]

Good good, seems there was nothing much to worry about then, eh? But if you're really worried, either don't do it or be smart about doing it and take all the necessary precautions.

[Morpheaus]

ok, just update-age... I'm not afraid anymore.. I just took two preg tests and both were negative.

From the way you've spoken on this thread I am given the impression that you really shouldn't have had sex in the first place. I saw earlier that you wouldn't be having sex for a long long time, does that still stand now that you know you're not pregnant?

[sealightbreeze]

[quote=kairigirl]((You're..22...? @-@ I feel like I should apologize, I've thought you were younger. o-o))

Yeah, I am. 23 in May. :p No need to apologize though. I am glad that the tests are ok with you, and nothing is wrong then Oblivion. Morpheaus made a good statement though- you do seem to make the impression that you regret and feel guilty about having sex.

[>.Oblivion.<]

yea, I know that now... that I really wasn't ready.... I let my hormones get the better of me ^^""

Anyways... yes... it still stands... I'm not interested in sexual relationships at the moment.. and won't be for a few more years.

[Morpheaus]

yea, I know that now... that I really wasn't ready.... I let my hormones get the better of me ^^""

Anyways... yes... it still stands... I'm not interested in sexual relationships at the moment.. and won't be for a few more years.

Well you learned from your mistake, which is a very good thing. I wish you the best of luck and hope you can stay stong against the pressures of sex. It's hard, especially after a slip like this, but I'm sure you'll do fine.

[>.Oblivion.<]

thanks ^^